Grief in the classroom and the Coalition to Support Grieving Students
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We all have experiences of loss and subsequent grief – even the youngest among us. While many of us collect tools and strategies for dealing with hardships as we age, the death of a friend, family member, teacher, or even pet can be extremely overwhelming for a child or young adult who has yet to experience a tragedy. The comfort of loved ones is essential for young people during times of loss, but what happens when a child returns to school?
Educators have been taught how to nurture the minds of their students, but the vast majority of them have never learned how to support a student experiencing grief – unfortunate, considering that in a school containing hundreds of students, at least a handful will be struggling emotionally at any given time.
Effective grief support often requires more than common sense or empathy – it requires training, tools, and advice from bereavement experts. How should a death be announced to a student’s classmates? How can a teacher tell when a child is grieving? What should a teacher say to a grieving student, and what type of guidance will be most helpful? How should slipping grades and other reactions be addressed?
The Coalition to Support Grieving Students has set out to answer these and other questions with a selection of free modules aimed at teaching educators why bereavement support in the classroom is necessary and how it should be handled. Modules are organized by topic area :
- Conversation and Support – how to talk to a grieving child and what not to say
- Developmental and Cultural Considerations – how to help a child understand what death is and be sensitive to the unique cultural practices of a child’s family
- Practical Considerations – how to develop policies for funeral attendance and help children grieving secondary losses (lifestyle and relational losses as the result of a death) and cumulative losses (the loss of several peers or family members over time)
- Reactions and Triggers – how grief may present academic challenges and other grief reactions and triggers
- Professional Preparation and Self-Care – why educators should be trained in these areas
- Crisis and Special Circumstances – how to react to the death of a staff member or classmate, suicide, and students with very serious illnesses
The Coalition was formed just two years ago after research showed that American educators were highly interested in helping their students during difficult times, but they lacked the resources and tools necessary to provide support. According to the Coalition:
“Schools are an ideal site at which to deliver care to grieving children: they are a safe and known setting for students, with a variety of trained staff available to address issues of grieving and death. The response of teachers and classmates to a student’s grief can either serve as an important source of support and stability during a difficult time, or as an additional hurdle to surmount.”
Because children may spend as much time with teachers and classmates during the week as they do with their own families, the resources provided by the Coalition are indispensable. To learn more, visit the Coalition to Support Grieving Students.
In recent years, the phrase “celebration of life” has become more common when families are planning services for a loved one. While many people have heard the term, there can still be confusion about what it truly means and how it differs from a traditional funeral. At its heart, a celebration of life is not about replacing tradition, but about offering a more flexible, personalized way to honor and remember a life. A celebration of life is a personalized service that focuses on honoring the unique story, personality, and legacy of the individual who has passed. While it can be held in a variety of locations, many families choose to gather in the comfort of a funeral home chapel, where they have both guidance and the ability to customize the experience. These services most often take place after cremation, which allows families more time to plan and create a meaningful tribute. However, every family’s preferences are different, and services can be arranged in whatever way feels most appropriate. No two celebrations of life are exactly the same, because no two lives are the same. One of the most meaningful aspects of a celebration of life is the ability to incorporate personal touches that reflect the life being honored, even within a chapel setting. Families may choose to include themed elements that represent a loved one’s passions, hobbies, or personality. This could be as simple as displaying favorite photos and memorabilia, or as unique as incorporating colors, music, or décor that reflect what they loved most in life. Memory tables, tribute videos, and customized music selections can all be seamlessly incorporated into a chapel service. Some families also invite guests to participate by sharing stories or bringing items that hold special meaning. This blend of personalization within a supportive, structured environment often provides both comfort and creativity during a difficult time. A celebration of life offers families the opportunity to gather in a familiar, supportive setting while creating a service that truly reflects their loved one. By combining the comfort of a chapel with the flexibility of personalization, it becomes a meaningful way to honor a life and share memories with those who matter most. There is no right or wrong way to plan a service. The most important thing is creating a space that feels genuine, supportive, and reflective of the person being remembered.
Many of us take our freedoms for granted, but our staff proudly acknowledges the sacrifices made by those who have served our country through their patriotism, love of country and willingness to protect others. We are committed to providing quality service and professional assistance to help families complete the necessary forms to obtain benefits that are provided through the United States Department of Veterans Affairs (VA). Here are some frequently-asked questions about benefits. What kinds of benefits are available? Granted to eligible Veterans in appreciation for the service they have provided for our country, benefits can include a burial allowance to help cover the burial, funeral and transportation costs associated with the deceased’s services and disposition. For those being buried in a national cemetery, survivors can receive assistance with the burial and funeral costs, the plot or internment, and the transporting of the veteran’s remains for burial. Additionally, Veterans may be eligible for a military funeral honors and committal service, and memorial items such as a cemetery headstone, marker, medallion, Presidential Memorial Certificate, plaque, or urn. Specific qualifications will need to be met to receive these benefits and memorial items. Who qualifies for burial benefits and burial in a national cemetery? Veterans, service members, spouses, and dependents may be eligible for burial in a VA national cemetery, as well as other benefits, if they meet one of the general requirements listed below. For complete requirements, please visit the VA burials and benefits page , and find a local VA national cemetery here . · A veteran who didn’t receive a dishonorable discharge · A service member who died while on active duty, active duty for training, or inactive duty for training · The spouse or minor child of a veteran, even if the veteran died first · In some cases, the unmarried adult dependent child of a veteran What are military funeral honors and a committal service? Military funeral honors include the playing of “Taps,” a rifle detail, a color guard and uniformed service members who properly fold and present the United States flag to the grieving family. These flags are typically given to the deceased’s next of kin or close friend. In order for the survivors to qualify to receive the burial flag, the veteran or reservist must be described by at least one of the following: · Served in wartime · Died while serving on active duty after May 27, 1941 · Served after January 31, 1955 · Served in peacetime and left military service before June 27, 1950, after serving at least one enlistment or because of a disability that was caused - or made worse - by their active military service · Served in the Selected Reserves, or served in the military forces of the Philippines while in service of the United States and died on or after April 25, 1951. As a Veteran, how do I apply for benefits? You can apply to find out in advance if you’re eligible for burial in a VA national cemetery. This is called a pre-need determination of eligibility—and it can help make the burial planning process easier for your family members in their time of need. Learn how to apply for a preneed determination of eligibility. As a surviving family member, how do I apply for benefits? As a surviving family member, you must file a claim for a non-service-connected burial allowance within two years after the veteran’s burial or cremation. There is no time limit to file for a service-connected burial, plot or interment allowance. You can apply online or by mail after completing the VA Form 21P-530. A veteran who didn’t receive a dishonorable discharge or a service member who died while on active duty may be eligible for a headstone or marker if they meet certain requirements. To find out if your deceased loved one qualifies for a cemetery marker and to apply, visit this site . For more information regarding VA burial benefits and memorial items, visit the VA's website or call the VA office at 1-800-827-1000.
Inflation affects nearly every part of daily life, from groceries and utilities to health care and housing. One area that is often overlooked is funeral and cremation planning. Like most services, these costs tend to increase over time. Preplanning provides a thoughtful way to prepare while reducing both financial and emotional stress in the future. More people are choosing to make arrangements in advance, not only to ensure their wishes are clearly known, but also to help protect their families from rising costs and difficult decisions during an already emotional time. The Reality of Rising Costs Funeral and cremation services include many components influenced by inflation, such as professional care, facilities, transportation, materials, and regulatory requirements. As these expenses increase, waiting to make arrangements can result in higher costs for families who may be unprepared to manage them, both emotionally and financially.  Planning ahead allows you to make decisions calmly and deliberately, rather than facing rushed choices during a time of loss. Addressing Today’s Prices One benefit many people appreciate about preplanning is the ability to address pricing in advance and reduce uncertainty about future costs. Preplanned arrangements may be funded in full or paid over time, giving you the flexibility to choose an option that fits your budget and personal situation. This approach helps make planning more approachable and manageable. To help protect pricing, arrangements are typically financially secured through full payment or an approved payment plan. This helps ensure that the services you choose today remain in place in the future, even as costs change. Reducing Financial Stress for Loved Ones One of the most meaningful benefits of preplanning is the consideration it shows for those you care about. When a death occurs, families are often required to make many decisions in a short amount of time. Having arrangements already in place removes much of that burden. By planning ahead, you relieve your loved ones from financial uncertainty and clearly document your wishes. This allows them to focus on honoring your life and supporting one another instead of worrying about costs or decisions. A Thoughtful Part of Long Term Planning Preplanning final arrangements is similar to creating a will or setting aside savings. It is an important step in long term planning. It gives you the opportunity to take control, ask questions, and make informed choices without pressure. Many people find comfort in knowing their plans are documented, their preferences are clear, and inflation is less likely to affect the value of the arrangements they have chosen. Peace of Mind for Today and Tomorrow Ultimately, preplanning is about peace of mind. It provides reassurance that your wishes are understood, your family is supported, and important details are handled thoughtfully. If you have been considering planning ahead, our team is here to share information, explain options, and answer questions whenever you are ready. A simple conversation today can bring comfort and confidence for years to come.
Prepaid funeral plans are often misunderstood. While some people worry about cost, flexibility, or security, the truth is that funeral preplanning can offer peace of mind and financial protection when arranged through a reputable provider. Below are common myths about prepaid funeral plans—and the facts families should know. Myth 1: Your Money Is Better Off in the Bank Fact: Funeral costs increase over time. A prepaid funeral plan locks in today’s prices on many funeral services and merchandise, helping protect your family from inflation and future cost increases. Myth 2: You’ll Lose Your Money If a Funeral Home Closes Fact: Prepaid funeral plans are regulated by state law. Funds are typically placed in a trust or insurance policy, not held by the funeral home. If a provider closes, the funds can usually be transferred to another funeral home. Myth 3: Moving Makes Your Plan Useless Fact: Most prepaid funeral plans are transferable. If you relocate, your plan can often be moved to another funeral provider, ensuring your arrangements remain in place. Myth 4: Life Insurance Covers Funeral Expenses Fact: Life insurance payouts can take weeks or months, while funeral costs are due immediately. Prepaid funeral plans are specifically designed to cover final expenses at the time of need. Myth 5: The Plan Won’t Work Unless It’s Fully Paid Fact: Many funeral preplanning arrangements provide coverage as soon as payments begin, as long as the account stays current. Your selected services are typically guaranteed. Myth 6: Preplanning Means High-Pressure Sales Fact: Funeral preplanning should be educational and voluntary. Reputable providers focus on honoring your wishes—not selling unnecessary products. Why Prepaid Funeral Planning Makes Sense Locks in funeral costs Reduces financial stress on loved ones Ensures your wishes are clearly documented Protects against rising funeral expenses Prepaid funeral planning is a thoughtful way to support your family and take control of your final arrangements. Contact us today to get started.
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